IAmA Stripper since I was 19...now 24

Do you see any men you would least expect to be at a strip club? Like a mayor or priest?

Yes. I have seen a very innocent looking teacher from my high school

Wow, did he remember you?

No he did not, I immediately walked to the dressing room

Have you ever legitimately become attracted to a client? From my experience (which is fairly limited) I've noticed that strippers will "hit on" guys or pretend to be more interested in them to get better tips (there's nothing wrong with that, I understand the business aspect behind it). I'm just curious about how often the interest in clients is genuine and how often it's faked

Not at all, and yes flirting goes a long way to receive tips or keep a client returning on a weekly basis. If anything being in this industry has made resent men.

Are you now a lesbian?

I wish I were

You resent men? What kind of men did you think you would be meeting as a stripper? Not being critical, just curious if you were told/thought otherwise? I wouldn't judge all men based on who you meet as a stripper. You're meeting exactly the type of man you would expect in a strip club.

Try meeting men as /u/tcaviar. Might end up a little better. Well, until they can't handle that you're a stripper! :)

I have come across men of all demographics. As I mentioned earlier, even bumped into a old high school teacher would was so innocent looking and reserved. I have met men who were doctors, and just random drunks who had no class. I have met little grandpas in walkers, and young men who just turned 18

But not every doctor or schoolteacher goes to the strip club.

True

Well, even waitresses can get flirty for a good tip.

Yes, I have come across waitresses who were literally undercover hookers

That's terrible! What restaurant were you at? ... So I know to avoid going there.

Not a restaurant...at a strip club. They would literally meet "sugar daddies" and do extras outside of work for Louboutins, purses, car down payments, rent money, etc.

I met a stripper once who said that she had to give it up because she'd started to resent men too much, including her own father. "I see daddies like him all the time," she said, and their behavior is all the same.

My SIL was a stripper for several years, but continued to work one day a week as a server at Bob Evans. She said it helped her stay grounded in the real world. OP, would it maybe help to have a second part-time job that isn't stripping?

I completely agree with that to "stay grounded"

what's the champagne room REALLY like?

Sometimes boring and mostly conversation. Other times I have witnessed/overhead more than just a dance. California strip clubs have gone downhill...literally low key brothels. However, in Nevada it is strictly dancing. "Extras" do occur but not as rampant as California clubs.

and people say legalizing prostitution at brothels where girls are required to get tested and use condoms is the unsafe option...

Exactly!

Heard on the radio the other day about a guy who got gonorrhea from a hj at a strip club.

Ew really?

If a decent looking guy took you to the champagne room and put $500 on the table, how far would you honestly go?

Can he look like Ed Westwick?

But Chris Rock said there's no sex in the champagne room. Now I'm confused.

There is not

What is the airspeed velocity of an unladen swallow?

Not sure

Have you ever been to Canada?

Once, to visit

cool have you every danced to The Beatles Obladi Oblada? Here it is if you have never heard of the song

Obladi Oblada

Never

Why isn't the Macho Man Randy Savage in the wrestling Hall of Fame? He was one of the greatest wrestlers but yet he is not even in the hall of fame, whereas people like pete rose and drew carey are in the wrestling hall of fame?

No idea. Maybe there was a mistake

I love the Beatles though

What are your long term plans? Do you see stripping as a possible career?

You say the job has made you resent men. Are you in a relationship right now?

Graduate from university in 2015, get a real job. Stripping is not a long term career. Once a woman goes past her prime, beauty is gone body is aged. However, intelligence is forever. I am currently not in a relationship

Given how your attitudes to men have been shaped by your job, what do you find attractive in a man?

What's the longest relationship you've been in?

I find an intellectual man attractive. Someone who respects a woman, someone who is generous and is able to view the world in different perspectives. Hygiene and a clean bathroom is sexy. A good fashion sense is a plus.

Longest relationship 4 years

Was this all while you were a stripper? Or before?

During

I find an intellectual man attractive. Someone who respects a woman, someone who is generous and is able to view the world in different perspectives. Hygiene and a clean bathroom is sexy. A good fashion sense is a plus.

How closely did this 4-year boyfriend fit that description?

He was uneducated, street smart but loyal and family oriented. Overtime we began to clash. His views were narrow minded, and only from his perspective. Our conversations became more meaningless. In the end he wasn't respectful. He got physically violent, and that was the last straw. His bathroom was clean though.

How much do you typically make per year?

Do you want to get out of the profession?

It's hard to say I would estimate 50,000-70,000. That is working 2-3 days a week. 5-6 hour shifts. But in context I was able to purchase a new Lexus last year. I also have my own apartment. And still have money saved. Hope that helps

My ex girlfriend was a stripper and what led to our breakup was she got influenced by the other girls and became addicted to cocaine and pills and alcohol which led to her pathologically lying about everything. How prevalent are drugs backstage and have you had a similar experience?

I am sorry to hear that my dear. That is devastating. I had a long term boyfriend who got hooked on prescription drugs...was not a good outcome. Drugs have been prevalent, especially cocaine and alcohol at a certain club. Luckily I have been strong enough to go to work get in...and get out

I have a friend that is a stripper & she once told me about a time where a guy paid her $20 to stomp on his balls, spit in his face & call him a nasty mother fuckers. Have you had any customers with strange requests?

Yes a gothic man who wanted ball stomping. Also males that were into asphyxiation...didn't want to go in the back with them

What kind of person gets off on having their balls stomped on?

A sadomasochist

ever had a celebrity come in?

I work in Nevada and California. (In a Southern California strip club) I have seen Travis Barker come in

Worst/Best customer you had?

Best customer was a giggly Asian in man who would tip me for no apparent reason. He was so upbeat all the time. Worst customer was a man who resembled Santa Claus

What did the Santa did?

He just annoyed everyone to no end. And was creepy

I have a very serious question, and please, please, don't be offended by it. You say that this job has made you resent men, but have you ever thought of it from the man's perspective?

I ask this because a girl who I like very much, and wanted to date in the past, has recently become a stripper. However, since she started stripping, her morals and integrity have changed. She is no longer the same woman I once knew, and I could not see myself dating her until she quit her job and took time to heal. She is starting to resent men as well, but that's because the men she deals with all day are men who would go to a strip club and ask for all the perks in the back rooms.

She's not into men like that; she's told me before she's looking for a Christian man, with moral integrity. While I cannot say I'm someone of integrity the way I would like to be, I can at least say I'm not someone who goes to strip clubs because I am afraid of how they would change my views of women and my outlook on others.

So my question is, you say this job has made you resent men, but is it possible that that is only half of it? Perhaps the job has changed you as a person as well, the same way it changed my friend. Maybe, and I am asking this, not implying it, half of you resents the types of men who frequent your place of work, and the other half resents yourself for putting yourself in this kind of business?

Like I said, I'm not trying to offend and I am most certainly not trying to put down. I am very close to several women who are strippers (including some family members), and I understand the decision to do it. I i only would like for you to elaborate on your stance that it has made you resent men.

It has changed me as a person, and actually made me value my life more. I actually went back into school and got accepted into a UC school...If anything morals vary from person to person. My job as a stripper does not define me. However, people will frown upon it so I do not reveal myself. I should recant that, I don't resent all men. I resent the ones that feel the need to be disrespectful and take a strip club experience for more than what it is.

Have you thought about the potential for a future employer to find out that you used to dance and fire you based on a morality clause?

Sure. However I have had a recent livescan and background check to work with children. Came back clear

Work with children? What kind of strip club do you work at?!

To clarify: day job

what do you make on an average night?

On an average night, 6 hours of work 500-800

• How many nights a week do you work?
• Do you have an "exit plan" or will you keep working until the money stops?
• Would you say you're doing this because you want to, or because it's the best option available?
• Does it ever go further than a lap dance? (As much or as little detail as you want is fine.)

Usually I will work 3 nights a week, Friday-Sunday. However these past two months, I have only worked once a week. I am a student at a certain UC school in California. I attend on a partial scholarship, therefore full-time. I will graduate in 2015...that is when I will stop. I grew up in a financially disadvantaged family, so I am obsessed with security. With a particular client yes. Money talks

whats it like being "retirement age" for your occupation?

Retirement age varies. Majority of the woman are in their 20s and 30s. There are few 40+

Many people guess that I am 19. Thank god for good genes

So.... you're hot?

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Thank you for the clarification

What is hot?

So I worked as a bouncer for a short time at a club in the Midwest. We were fairly busy most nights, and for the most part I have no complaints. My biggest problems with strippers, is how cheap they are. They would be walking out the door with $500+ but wouldn't even give me a $5 tip for pulling drunks off them, cleaning up bottles / tables, running and getting them food / drink, etc.

I hope that you tip your bouncers.

I take care of my bouncers and DJs with the tipping, and they know it :)

Are you exotic?

Sure. I have a very unique look.I am taller than average with natural green eyes. It is hard to tell what I am. Sometimes I look Caucasian. Other times I look Asian.

I'm guessing you're Puerto Rican

Nope Eurasian

So i take it you aren't Asian or Caucasian then?

I am exactly 50% Asian, 50% Caucasian

Do you earn more looking Asian or Caucasian?

It depends, the lighting is dim. Some people catch on right away. Some people don't mind the race. And there is always those that don't catch on. I would say I make money for looking like neither

How much blow have you done and, be honest now, how far will an 8-ball get me?

Back when I was a senior in high school...I tried blow. It didn't impress me much. But I have done my fair share. An 8-ball will last you a good weekend in Vegas

Would you ever recommend stripping to someone who needs the cash (college students, for example)?

Yes. Get ahead while you can. If you have a strong mind though...I wouldn't recommend this line of work to someone who has underlying issues that may lead to destructive behavior such as self harm, or drug use

What's your favorite flavor of ice cream?

I like those Mexican paletas...Strawberry flavored!

Do you, or did you ever enjoy the job?

I love the art of pole dancing!

I'm not a stripper, but a pole dance instructor. I say, rock on pole sister! ;)

:) I love that! One of my good friends is a instructor at a pole fitness studio. Glad to see someone who agrees with me

Have you ever thought about doing porn?

No way! That is forever on the internet

how did you get into your first job or club as a stripper? do you have a very exotic stage name? or do you use your regular name?

I use a normal sounding name...I got into my first club with a friend of mine. We discussed an interest and wanted to try something crazy. So we did. Spur of the moment decision

When do you expect to start seeing a decline in tips as you age, or have you already hit peak earnings? Did you make more or less at 19 than you do today? Did you start earning good money right away, or was there a learning period before you hit your stride?

I am at my peak right now. I made less at 19 than I do now. I haven't aged...I still get mistaken for 19

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Thank you, you take it at face value which I think most of the comments on here have missed. Btw I am in California not Florida

• What was it that brought you into dancing for a job? Was the the money for security, or did it have some allure that drew you to it?

Interesting career choice, and big kudos for thinking ahead and having goals for your future! Good luck with your degree and career!

Thank you for your kind words! As a child I grew up extremely poor/financially disadvantaged. I watched my parents struggle and make major sacrifices for my siblings and I. I am obsessed with stability and security, also really into the art form of dancing (pole).

1. What's the worst part about stripping?
   
2. Did stripping affect your dating? For better/worse?
   
3. If you had a daughter would you mind her stripping?
   
4. What would you say was an unexpected lesson you learned while stripping?

1. Watching some women (co-workers) dig a grave for themselves. The worst thing I witnessed was a heavily pregnant stripper taking shots of whiskey in the restroom :/
2. It has sometimes, both for better and for worse
3. I would not want my future daughter to strip, I would do everything in my power to make sure she is taken care of early on
4. It made me see the world in a new perspective and to sit back and be grateful for everything

do you have a pimp?

No way