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I think they're paying for the friend and security more than the ride. It would also be cheaper to get a cab, but it's good to know that someone is close by who knows exactly where you are and what you are doing.

responsible gun owners don't accidentally bring a gun anywhere. Guns are dangerous, you should always know where they are and if they're loaded. If you can't do that you don't deserve to have one.

Here is something - NASA takes advice from industry leaders 4 times a year. The meetings are open to the public, as is NASAs deliberation. You can also read the minutes online for each committee and for the full NAC (NASA Advisory Counsel) meeting. If you want to know what is going on with NASA it's actually very easy to find out :)

There is a really great longitudinal study on couples where one partner has hiv and the other doesn't. It shows how amazingly effective condoms are when used correctly and consistently.

As a switch, I think that I always have a submissive and a dominant part of me. But I am never trying to hurt my partner - I'm going to cause pain, but it comes from a loving place. The transition to "taking care of" my boyfriend by tying him up and hitting him to taking care of him by snuggling him and bringing him hot chocolate is fairly smooth. It's actually the other direction that is hard. Getting myself into a dominant head space and guiding my partner along that journey with me so that we can both get to and enjoy heavier play is difficult. Coasting out of that and into snuggle time is easy.

On the other side - all I have to do is relax, clear my head, and enjoy the ride. But I don't think my dominant sees himself as a "mean" person. He's going to hurt me and he's going to call me names, but he knows that he's filling a really big need that I have too. I want to feel pain, I want to be his fucktoy, our kink time is a huge stress relief for me. He isn't being aggressive or degrading (it looks that way); he's being a huge help to me, he's getting a big ego boost, and we're both having fun. In his case, I think that transitioning out of that dominant headspace comes naturally as he stops thinking about sex. Less flipping a switch, more coasting to a stop.

Kink can be a little... religious, for lack of a better word. Giving yourself to someone and submitting completely is meditative and it's absolutely beautiful. Being the person who is able to bring someone to that state and take care of them while they are there is a huge responsibility and a huge power trip. Everyone wins.