TiredPaedo

Teach them early that they belong to themselves and have a right to personal security and dignity.

All too often children are taught to obey unquestioningly the orders of those in positions of authority and I think that's a problem.

We need to teach children to give greater weight to the opinions of those who have greater experience in a subject but not to the degree that they are expected to disregard their own instincts or concept of ethics.

Teach children to question things they don't understand no matter the source and not rest until they are reasonably sure they have the truth.

Teach them no one is above reproach and everyone is subject to common rules and deserving of common courtesy.

Help them become active participants rather than passive observers in their life and teach them that wrongdoing must never go unanswered.

We are all in this together and we're only as strong as our weakest link.

Help them become the strong links that bind us to a bright future.

Well, trying to suppress thoughts just makes things more difficult.

You kind of have to take a meditative approach to it.

Acknowledge and accept who you are and what you feel so you're not a slave to it.

From understanding comes control.

Allow your thoughts just to be without anxiety.

As for actions that comes with practice.

Learn to see the subject of your attraction as more than what you want from them.

Want the best for them and realize that it's not you.

Thanks for that.

No, I said if she's ever willing to confront me I'd like to give her any aid I can.

I'm not initiating any contact with her because any that happens has to be at her discretion or it's just me forcing my presence on her again for my own desires.

I wouldn't say I have an overwhelming fear of much of anything.

Due to the things I've been through in my life I tend to panic on my feet.

I fear things, don't get me wrong, but I tend to take a rather Spartan or minimalist approach to problems.

Can I change this?

If yes then why worry? Just change this.

If no then why worry? It doesn't change anything.

I'm not sure if many people ever forgive themselves for their mistakes.

We are willing to forgive others because we convince ourselves that they might have pains and struggles we don't understand but we can't make the same excuses for ourselves so forgiving oneself has to be a kind of conscious choice not to suffer anymore.

I'm still kind of comitted to my suffering at least as long as she still suffers. I think it keeps things in perspective.

I'm not sure if that's honorable or just stupid but there it is.

Pain helps me focus I guess.